Your Relationship isn’t Broken.

But it’s about to be tested in very unique ways. IVF is more than a medical event, it’s a deeply relational one. We help fortify your relationships for the crossing.

Who holds the relationship at the threshold?

The IVF journey is a liminal space, a sacred in-between where your life is no longer what it was but hasn't yet become what's next.

Naturally, it can bring up a common, but quiet concern about what will happen when the weight of what's ahead presses on the places between you that are already tender. If you’re here, you’d rather be intentional than find out the hard way.

Most of the support available for couples is clinical and built around the birthing parent, but who holds the us? And how might the experience be if the relationship was fortified in advance?

That's what this offering is for.

Short-term couples therapy for a sacred passage.

Compared to ongoing couples therapy where you might spend time excavating your childhood or rewriting your attachment patterns, we’re doing something more immediate and contextual: making sure you don't lose each other inside of what's ahead.

Sometimes the work is practical. And sometimes it's just having a place where the relationship gets to breathe while everything else is focused on the medical or logistical. This is the place where you get to be a couple, not just a patient and a support person.

Everything we do stays in the context of what you're facing. When deeper things surface — and they will — we honor them without chasing them. There will be time for that work later if you want it.

We start by understanding how your relationship actually works: who reaches for who when things get hard, where you go quiet, what's already tender.

Then we look at what's ahead and we talk about the things you've both been thinking but haven't said yet: the fears, the unspoken expectations, the conversation you keep almost having in the car. We get it on the table before it goes underground.

From there, we pay attention to where your relationship is most likely to feel the pressure because every couple has patterns that work fine on a regular Tuesday, but fall apart when life gets heavy.

We look at how the specific thing you're facing is going to activate the specific way you two move together, so you can be prepared instead of blindsided.

Three Months of Deep Care

The rhythm of our time together follows your timeline, not a rigid therapeutic schedule.

Sessions may be biweekly, weekly during the most intense stretches, or spaced differently depending on where you are in the process. I also offer support between sessions because the hard moments don't wait for your next appointment.

We begin while you're still deciding or preparing, and before the medical protocol takes over, so that relational support is part of the plan, not an afterthought.

If treatment has already started, this particular offering may not be the right fit, but I'm happy to talk about what might be.

We close the container after the outcome — whatever that outcome is — with space to land together and decide what's next. Some couples walk away with what they need. Some choose to continue into deeper relational work. Both are honored here.

Why I Do This Work

This offering came out of sitting across from couples who wanted to be intentional about resourcing their relationships as they were about to walk through something life-changing together.

It seemingly happened by chance, but I realized that this type of specialized support should be the standard.

I built this because it didn't exist, and because helping people walk through thresholds is where I do my best work. It's where I live clinically, and it's the thread that runs through everything I do. I'm formally trained in couples and family therapy and I work exclusively with relationships. Learn more about me here.

I also know what medically intensive processes do to relationships from personal experience. What I’ve seen time and time again is that the people who make it on the other side in one piece and stronger than before are the ones who were honest about what they needed before things got hard.

Holding couples at the threshold of creating life is one of the deepest honors of my life, and a sacred responsibility that I do not take lightly.

FAQs

  • Most couples who come to this work aren't. You might be getting along fine and still have a feeling that what's ahead is going to test you in ways you haven’t been before. That feeling is enough. This offering is less about fixing something that's broken and more about about being intentional with something that matters to you before it's under pressure.

  • Traditional couples therapy is more open-ended, whereas this is time-bounded and anchored around an experience. We're focused specifically on the passage you're about to walk through, and everything we do stays in that context. It has a beginning, a middle, and an end. Some couples move into longer-term work afterward, but many don't need to.

  • If your cycle or treatment has already started, this particular container may not be the best fit as the preparation window is part of what makes this work. But that doesn't mean there's nothing available to you. Reach out and we'll talk about what might make sense.

Ready When You Are

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